Will micro weddings stick around beyond the days of facemasks and guest restrictions?
I would say yes! And the reasons why are pretty positive 🧡
As we head into the second month of 2021, it is evident that micro weddings are still frequently being considered by engaged couples, and for good reason! When looking at weddings for what they are today, there are endless reasons why micro weddings could become the favoured choice of most couples – particularly those who are after something different for their wedding day.
In the past, it might’ve been unusual to have a small guestlist but, like many things over this last year, intimate weddings have been normalised by the pandemic. Which is why many suppliers in the wedding industry think micro weddings are here to stay, and we’re getting quite excited by it.
So what are some of the pros to planning a smaller wedding, and are there any downfalls? It’s important to remember that your wedding won’t be like anyone else’s, simply because it’s yours: your love story, your desires, your day. That might mean a micro wedding just isn’t your dream wedding day, and that’s okay! All I would say is to not make your final decision until you’ve read about it from a wedding planner’s point of view:
Small doesn’t mean less, it actually means more from a styling perspective.
All my couples know their biggest expense is their per head cost (the number of people you need to seat and cater for). More guests equal more tables to decorate, and more tables means making your flower and décor budget go further. So naturally, when you reduce the guestlist, you are rewarded with a large chunk of unused budget that previously wouldn’t have been available.
The wedding inspiration found on Pinterest or Instagram is often created on just one table for an editorial shoot. In most cases, recreating that level of design for 10+ tables will exceed the couple’s wedding budget. This isn’t to say that editorials are misleading or bad, it’s more a reminder that drawing inspiration from these styled images is better than trying to recreate them on the same scale, especially when planning larger weddings.
Though, microweddings have completely changed that. Your styling options increase massively with a smaller guestlist, and for many couples this is a dream come true. Dining in an exquisite setting or being able to have that spectacular ceremony backdrop might be your reason for saying yes to a microwedding.
Though it does mean less pressure.
For many couples, the idea of standing up in front of a big crowd and exchanging personal vows isn’t always appealing. Nor the first dance or any other tradition that involves spectators. This aside, planning a big wedding, even with a wedding planner in your corner, will require large amounts of your time and attention. At the end of the day weddings are still events, with a number of details to decide on and suppliers to coordinate. While most of the responsibility falls to your wedding planner, a large affair might not be right for you, and a microwedding could be the answer to your concerns.
Connecting with your guests is easier.
Naturally, it’s harder to spend time and catch up with 100 guests as opposed to 30 guests on your wedding day, especially when a portion of the event is spent at specific seats on separate ends of the table.
If this is an important factor for you, and a big wedding is a must-have, it can be improved with shorter dinners or a longer standing reception, though remember to increase the food accordingly so no one stands around feeling hungry. Laidback BBQs or food stations can easily replace a seated dinner, which will allow guests to socialise and move around as they please (it’s always good to create lounge and bar seating for this format as you will have guests who would like to sit down during the wedding).
With micro weddings, creating a quality experience that you and your guests will cherish for years to come is easier, as there are less people to consider and more time to really connect with each other.
Your wedding can be more individual and unique.
You might find you’re more inclined to ditch the typical wedding template in favour of an event or activity better suited to a smaller guest list, something that isn’t always easy to do when considering 100+ guests. Part of the wedding experience could involve a canal boat trip with drinks before arriving at your dinner destination, or a wine tasting post-dinner if you’re hosting the wedding on a vineyard.
I’m a big fan of adding unusual activities into a wedding day when the budget and guest numbers allow. Guests are pleasantly surprised at the new or different addition to a typical wedding day, and these moments are often when comical images and treasured memories are created.
It opens up the option to have TWO celebrations.
By scaling the ceremony and dinner guestlist back to just your nearest and dearest, you potentially open up a healthy chunk of your budget, that can now be put towards a massive post-wedding celebration. For me, the lively evening party is definitely the best part of a larger wedding. A quality party requires excellent entertainment and great production so the extra budget comes in handy. As much as your guests would be delighted to witness you say the official words ‘I do’ and sit down for a festive meal together, many will be just as excited to celebrate your union at an informal and fun evening party.
To conclude, micro weddings are not about being able to spend less on your wedding day, they’re about spending your budget intentionally, with every last drop going towards an item or experience you will love.
Weddings are evolving for all the best reasons. We’re now looking for ways to create experiences that have meaning to us, in settings that make our hearts sing. And the beauty of this is that those ideas are unique to each couple, there is no right or wrong way to celebrate your union as long as you love every second of it.
Micro wedding, maximum love ✨